Wednesday, August 15, 2018

When All 3 Of Your Kids Share a Room

Ever since our youngest turned 2, he has not been a fan of sleeping alone in his own room. He would fall asleep in his toddler bed (he was already climbing out of the crib) and around 2 or 3 in the morning wander into our room or his sisters' bedroom. It wasn't until recently that we decided to move his bed into his sisters' room so 1) he isn't alone and 2) we see if this move would comfort him enough during the night that he wouldn't wake up multiple times.

The plan worked! If only we had figured this out sooner!!

So, now all 3 of our kiddos share one room and surprisingly, it's not crowded at all. I feel like it's actually even cozier and comfier than before. 

The change involved repainting the walls with a color the girls chose- Benjamin Moore Iceburg. I was hesitant about it at first because I didn't really know how it would work with some of the other elements in the room. But I have to say, they were spot on with the color! We love it! It's a blue that reminds me of the sky on a clear summer day. :)

Here are a few photos of their new space. 

I spy a little boy reading :)

I did end up keeping the painted closet doors because the girls use this for their clothes. Our son's clothes are still in his old room, since he will be moving back there eventually.

 I spy a cute puppy! (even though he's actually not a puppy anymore, he's still cute)

The doll bunk bed was a DIY project from last year. A few of the dolls sleep there...and did you happen to notice the doll in the basket that is missing her shirt? Why do kids love to take clothes off of dolls and not put them back on? Something I'll never understand.

Behind the closet doors, the girls share an over-the-door organizer. It was a couple of bucks at Wal-Mart and holds plenty of their little toys and stuffed animals. Happy to have them off the floor at the end of the day!

This little spot next to the door of their room is special to me because it holds sweet memories of when our girls were little. :) We had the pictures taken at Colonial Williamsburg. Such a sweet day!

We still have that dollhouse I made for the girls a few years back. They still play with it occasionally, which is nice. Little brother and little sister have also doodled on it quite a bit. It's not lacking in color, that's for sure!

The large B/W picture above is another one of our favorites. It was taken about 2 years ago when our kiddos still loved each other. Just kidding! They still do. ;) 

The framed quote is from Katie Davis Majors, founder of Amazima Ministries (a ministry we support). It says,"I have learned that I will not change the world. Jesus will do that. I can, however, change the world for one person." You can learn more about this wonderful Uganda-based ministry here.

I also hung up a shelf (fence board that my hubby cut down to size) above the picture for all the kids' arts and crafts.

With all this, I hope the room is a place for our kiddos to rest and relax after a busy day. So far, it has worked out that way and for that, I am thankful!

Sunday, August 12, 2018

Relationships in Church

I want to use this post to share about a topic that's been on my heart for some time. Read it if you wish, or not. Either way, here it goes.


It's such an easy thing to do and an easy way to hurt others.

It usually starts off innocent (or so we think) and usually we share negative feelings about someone with a spouse first. But then, we share more with close friends, other family members, and the negativity just keeps spreading. Often times, and sadly, without it's victim knowing.

I have been guilty of it and I'm embarrassed to say that. The Bible talks quite a bit about this (see James 3) and as believers, we are called to go to a brother if we have discord with them (see Matthew 5:23-24). How often do we even see that happen in the church? Unfortunately, not often at all. It's quite sad actually! We are called to a higher standard and yet so often within the church we don't build each other up.

This really frustrates me. It's one thing to share everything with a spouse and keep it between the two of you. It's another thing to go and tell a friend, and another friend who tells another friend, and so on. Again, oftentimes without the "victim" knowing there is any sort of problem or issue.

I'd like to share an example...let's assume all characters in this story are Bible believing Christians who attend church together.

Let's say Tulip and Apple are working on a church project together for a church program. Tulip is all excited about working on this project and gets to brainstorming ideas right away. Apple isn't as excited and wonders why she even got roped into doing something like this for the church in the first place.

Tulip and Apple have their first meeting to talk about their ideas and immediately Apple starts gossiping about a certain member of the church she doesn't like. Tulip doesn't know what to say or do and just sits there and listens to Apple complain. Fifteen minutes later they are finally talking about the plans for the church program.

That's how gossip starts. The next thing you know, Tulip is being talked about behind her back because she didn't engage in the gossip Apple wanted her to. All sorts of lies are being said about Tulip and she notices a few people that she knows start distancing themselves from her. She in turn begins distancing herself from others. She doesn't understand why so what should she do?

Well, as a believer, she is called to pray and go to her sisters in Christ about these matters and NOT to gossip about them see Matthew 5).

So that is what Tulip does....she approaches her sister(s) in a disarming way and shares that she has noticed her sister(s) is/are closing themselves off from her. And you want to know what a common response often is from this type of question??

"Oh, I didn't think anything was wrong. As far as I'm concerned, I didn't think anything happened between us and I don't know of anything that might have happened. Trust me, if I had a problem with you, I would tell you."

It may be laughable at first, but in reality this response is far too common within the church. And let me be clear, I'm in no way claiming innocence here. I've started and participated in gossip. Because of this, I've had to go to a brother/sister to apologize for my sin. Sadly, the outcome of some of these past conflicts have left a distance between me and the other party/person.

And this is why some relationships aren't being built up in the church and why trust is an issue among brothers and sisters in Christ. It's sad, right? We want to shift the blame when we are actually confronted with our own sin instead of immediately repenting of our wrongdoing and making our friendships stronger.

This doesn't even cover intentional malicious gossip. It's amazing what we will believe about someone we barely know when we are told something negative about them from someone else. We immediately want to put up a wall and make it about an "us verses them." I once read that if we actually invested in the person "whom we heard so much negativity about" that we would grow to like them, not hate them. A friendship would actually become something tangible. Wouldn't that be glorious?